Dear Mr. Tim Cook: Being Gay is not from God
Dear Mr. Tim Cook,
I want to congratulate you for your public confession: “I consider being gay among the greatest gifts God has given me.” How many people recognize God as the giver of every good thing? But that’s precisely the point: “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights” (James 1:17). God, who is good and perfect, gives only good and perfect gifts.
But not everything we have and everything that exists comes from God. Death does not come from God, nor do cancer and other “bad” things that cause death and suffering. Tsunamis, Ebola, and the destruction they bring do not come from God. So where do they come from? They come from a deviation, a perversion of nature, introduced by sin. As a result what originally did not belong to nature has become “second nature.”
Being gay is such an abnormality. We are not as God created us: “male and female.” We have become LGBTs—some were born while others have become that way: “For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others” (Mt. 19:12a). This truth is hard to accept because our “minds have become darkened” (Rom. 1:21) and “we exchange the truth for a lie.” Case in point: to consider being gay as a gift from God.
The sobering truth is that homosexuality is a “dishonorable passion” (Rom. 1:26). Sinful passions (vices, addictions, inordinate and powerful emotions) should be subdued or reoriented. We all have passions, and are swayed by them, which make us “commit shameful acts” (Rom. 1:27). I was born with a short fuse. My father was that way; many people carry this trait. But this is no excuse. We must control this and other destructive passions that control us.
What, then, must we do? There is a choice: “there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this should accept it” (Mt. 19:12b). That’s the choice we have: live a celibate life. But to do it we must be able to accept it.
In sincere love,
Fr. Emmanuel Hatzidakis